Now if you are like me….you now have Diana Ross jamming in your head right now, and you’re very welcome for that. 🙂 I was doing some soul searching lately and this has been on my mind heavy. I am single and up until recently been okay with that so I decided to enter the world of dating. This did two things: made me appreciate being single and realize that there are a bunch of fools out there and not a stitch of love in sight so Ms. Ross got some ‘splainin’ to do!
In a world of Catfishing and the ever present accusations of “thirst traps” online dating is all but ruled out of the search for Mr. or Miss Right and then when you add in all the people that have been burned by the aforementioned issues taking it out on everyone you really just have a bunch of people running around mentally and emotionally abusing each other; all in the name of ” finding love”. Now I know I am not that old but I do know that at one point dating was a REAL THING. No really……it was…….for real…………….stop laughing. It was real!!! A guy would call and ask a girl out to dinner and they would go and eat and laugh and talk and maybe even hold hands for a while. 🙂
Now it goes like this:
1. Can I have your number?
2. Text message (not a phone call): Him: Hey! It’s ________ you met from _________
3. You: OH! Hi how are you?
4. Him: I’m good. So when can I come through?
Or something like this:
1. Him: Text message (usually at some unGodly hour): WYD?
2. You: Just relaxing
3. Him: *sends you string of pictures of himself you didn’t even ask for* Send me a pic.
So is it safe to say that the days of dinner and a movie are dead and gone? There will be no more walks in the park or carriage rides through downtown? No flowers for no reason or surprise gifts just because it’s Tuesday? What’s even sadder than that is that a good bit of women are fine with this missing component. So a good MAJORITY of men don’t even consider it as an option when pursuing women anymore.
In my opinion technology killed romance. Yes….I said it! The only useful tool is Skype because of the number of long distance relationships due to travel, military, etc. But other than that, texting, Tweeting, Facebooking, etc took a knife and chopped romance up into little pieces and dumped it in love’s lap. And well you know love wasn’t having that mess so love turned tail and disappeared altogether. I hate to break it to you but love is more elusive than a bundle of #2 wet and wavy at the beauty supply store. You just can’t catch it and end up having to settle for some mess that you KNOW doesn’t look right with your hair type but hey……..at least you have something……right?