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Why Do I Keep Hitting Myself Over The Head With A Hammer?

Because it feels so good when I stop…..A lot of people have probably heard this phrase before. Meredith said it in an episode of Grey’s Anatomy once. When I first heard it I wasn’t sure what she meant but the more and more I thought I about what she said, I finally got it.As women we do things, certain things, over and over again that usually cause us some sort of grief or pain and more often than not it involves a man. It can be anything from waiting for a date or sitting by the phone waiting for it to ring and usually once these things happen a sense of relief washes over us but the catch is as the high wears off from that encounter slowly but surely we start the cycle…..all….over….again. Hence, hitting ourselves over the head with the hammer.

These blows to the head can come in many different forms these are a few:

  • Sending text messages waiting for and receiving no response for hours or sometimes days, or worse, not at all. And when it finally does it’s a one word response: “HI” or “Hey”
  • Placing endless phones calls that go unanswered for days at a time.A subtle exchange of emails or tweets that get ignored or when answered are very short and one-sided.
  • Promises of a returned phone call that doesn’t happen. At least not within the same 72-hours it was promised.
  • Plans of another date or spending time together that seems to never come.

They say love, or the lack of it, will make you do crazy things and the older I get the more I see this statement holds some truth. It can make you see things that aren’t there are or see people in a light that isn’t necessarily a good one but one that suits you at the time. All in an effort to stop hitting yourself upside the head with the hammer. But I wouldn’t classify it so much as crazy as I would a want to have someone in your life. I don’t think anyone likes being alone and because of that fact we as women put up with a lot and in an effort to fill that void we get so little in return. What we really need to ask ourselves is this: is it worth it? Is the stress and strain from the repeated blows of the hammer worth an emotionless text that may or may not come or the two-minute phone conversation with no plans of another in sight? I will be the first to admit, I have sent texts the night before, sleeping with my phone by my side, only to wake up the next morning disappointed to find no response and I’m sure I’m not the only one woman to have done this. Just like I’m sure there a plenty of women who have rode cloud nine through a date  with a man only to have that cloud crash to the ground when they don’t see him again for weeks and are only left with unanswered texts and phone calls promising “we’ll hook up soon”.

So at what point is it okay to put down the hammer? Or are we destined to beat ourselves silly searching for a high that may or may not ever come again?

via Why Do I Keep Hitting Myself Over The Head With A Hammer?.

ALL THAT GLITTERS: Now Available For Download!

So I just finished the long tedious process of revamping my first novel ALL THAT GLITTERS and turning it into an e-book. I think because I have grown so much as a writer over the last few years it became more of a re-write than a revision but all-in-all I’m happy with the result. It’s my first e-book and I’m not sure how I feel about it. Being a traditionally published author I am on the fence about the hardback vs e-reader controversy but I saw this as an opportunity to try something different. Now exactly what that is….is hard to explain. I wanted to use this e-book as an opportunity to bring both old and new characters together in a way that would create a compelling story and also get you all ready for my next release BETWEEN FRIENDS. So you will be introduced to some characters that you will be reacquainted with in Between Friends you will also be able to check-in on characters from THE LIES THAT BIND.  I consider this book as sort of an intermission. I hope you all enjoy it!

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Not Easy Being Me…..

For some reason, the the other night, I found myself functioning in a alternate version of me. Talking…….expressing myself…..and even opening myself up to other people. I am a self-professed introvert and proud of it. LOL! I think most artists/writers are. Solitude at times is a necessity when you’re creating. So, in the wake of my new found extrovert tendencies *giggles* I tried to chalk it up to nerves…..and the one too many drinks I’d had in the previous hours, but in reality for the first time in a long time…….I realized that I was allowing myself to be myself.  You may be thinking: “Why is she tripping about being herself. That’s what you’re supposed to do.”

And that’s true, for the most part. But in my life I have learned that you can’t be 100 with everyone. No matter how bad you may want too. But for some reason…..in that moment…….I wanted to be, so I took a chance and I ran with it. 🙂 I should be proud right? That shows growth…..maturity. WRONG! I woke up the next morning wishing I’d stayed tucked away behind the walls that I’d expertly constructed over the years. Walls that have been faithful friends and protected me from the “extra” and the “bitchassness” of the world that so many people seem to have to NO problem dumping in other people’s laps.

But alas….it was too late.

So now I have a dilemma, because in the moment I enjoyed the freedom, the connection. But in true run-for-the-hills fashion, I vowed to never let my walls down again because….you just never know. But realistically…..you’ll never know….if you don’t take down at least ONE wall. Now has that wall came down? Uhhhh….no. But I have installed a drawbridge and removed the alligators from the surrounding mote. 🙂

Hey….it’s progress right? 😀

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